Some times, we make physical space for things to occur. We move things around to get a new piece of furniture. We get rid of old clothes to buy new ones. We shift things around to let someone else occupy physical space around us. But what about the emotional space?
When do we start to empty ourselves, of ourselves to begin to make space for others? How, if we are so full of and consumed with ourselves, do we make internal space for someone else?
That, to me, is a deliberate effort that we must make, if we want to. I feel like, in general, I’m fairly sensitive or in tune to the things and needs of others. I also realize that many aren’t that way. Many of us are self involved enough (including me some times), that the needs/emotions of others aren’t high on the consideration list. This is assuming there’s some sort of friendship/relationship association. I get it, doesn’t mean I agree, but I see it and understand it.
It’s a challenge to even want to consider opening up emotional space within ourselves (myself), for someone else to occupy. For a long time, I didn’t. So when I do, I guess I expect others to do the same, silly me right?! And we (I) cannot or should not always believe that people don’t want to make that space, maybe they do, just in their own way, or they don’t know how. So then, you’ve got to navigate through what they are pushing aside to get to that space they are opening up. Although it sometimes seems like a minefield to navigate through.
Hopefully making it to that place they have reserved, just for you, is worth it. I for one, want to believe it is!